When you’re trying to fix,
You may be thinking…. I need to STOP overeating, STOP eating emotionally, STOP eating the wrong foods.
You may feel really urgent (maybe even panicked) to find a solution (program, coach, or book) that will take away the struggle.
You likely beat yourself up and feel bad when you overeat or emotionally eat. It’s generally right after these situations that you want “to fix” most.
The most common forms of fixing are food restriction, rigorous dieting and more frequent or longer exercise.
If you’re trying to fix your relationship with food and bodies, you’ve likely forgotten:
Your body is universally perfect because it’s here on earth. You came into this world divinely and nothing has changed. It’s only our culture and the biases we’ve absorbed that have led us to believe that something is wrong.
Disordered patterns with food are coping mechanisms. You’ve put them in place to keep yourself safe and protected.
By trying to fix unwanted behavior, you may spend more time and energy on the behavior instead of inviting in healing the part of you that created the unwanted behavior in the first place.
When we try to fix, we see ourselves as wrong or broken.
And this is simply not true.
And, you’re not wrong for wanting to fix something painful! Of course, you want your life to be better.
My invitation to you is to notice when you want to fix. When you catch yourself, gently remind yourself that the way to heal is through connecting with your inner state and practicing self-compassion.